One of you wants to work on saving the marriage, and the other is seeking a divorce. It’s a common relationship issue.  In fact, in the world of Marriage and Family therapists, we call these couples “mixed agenda” relationships. They represent nearly 30% of clients who seek marriage counseling.

Discernment Counseling is a new approach to couples therapy specifically for mixed agenda couples. DC is a systematic approach to help both partners. Its primary goal is to help each partner gain clarity and confidence in their decisions. It also seeks to help the clients understand the dynamics of their relationships and how each person involved contributed to the current state of things.

What Can I Expect From Discernment Counseling?

  • DC typically lasts between 1-5 sessions

  • Each session is 1-1/2 to 2 hours long

  • I will work with both partners individually

  • Both partners will feel clarity and confidence about their decisions moving forward.

Discernment Counseling is not suitable if

  • One partner has already made up their mind to divorce and is only using this therapy to pressure their partner into agreement.

  • One partner is threatening the other in order to coerce them into trying DC.

  • There is domestic violence within the relationship, or danger of it.

  • There is a restraining order in place against one of the participants.

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