Divorce is not the end of the road, it's a change of direction.
The Collaborative Process allows clients to divorce respectfully and provides parents the opportunity to dance at their children’s weddings, while the uncoupling partners retain relationships with the extended family systems.
Ending a relationship can be one of the most difficult and most important decision of your life. It is a time of great uncertainty. The effects of the divorce process will ripple out to your friends, loved ones, and especially your children. Collaborative Divorce, sometimes referred to as “peaceful divorce” or “no court” divorce, aims at reducing the conflict of uncoupling while opening healthy lines of communication. As the name would suggest, this is a collaborative process. It helps you have constructive conversations about co-parenting, as well as creating a meaningful plan toward reaching your co-parenting goals while working with a team of Collaboratively trained Attorneys and Financial Neutrals to assist the clients in making their own choices through fairness.
Research has shown that children can navigate relatively well through difficult life transitions. They can even manage through the move into two separate households. What tends to cause harm to children, in the long run, is the conflict between parents. Collaborative Divorce coaching will help both you and your spouse work together to minimize the pain and grief of this time for your children, yourselves, as well as explore how to provide the support they need.
The Common Goals of Collaborative Divorce are to
Arrive at a settlement that is mutually acceptable without using courts or the traditional litigation process to decide important issues.
Maintain healthy, respectful, and informed communication through the entire process
Consider Collaborative Divorce if you
Want to maintain a healthy and respectful process and resolution, even if you don’t agree
Want to make your children’s needs a priority
Can consider your spouses’ needs equal to your own, and listen objectively.
Are willing to be creative and cooperative in problem solving.
Recognize that it is important to reach beyond today’s frustration to plan for tomorrow.
Can act in an ethical way toward your spouse.
Want to maintain control of the divorce process and not hand over the process to the courts.
As a Divorce Coach, I am one of many professionals who will work side by side with you and your spouse. Together, we can effectively communicate the needs of everyone involved while minimizing emotional conflict and staying present with the issues or concerns relating to the negotiation of the divorce.
As a Child Specialist, my goal is to assist the parents and Collaborative Team by identifying and expressing the developmental needs and concerns of the children while acting as a conduit by giving the children a voice in the process.